Support for those affected by domestic violence is available. The responsibility for abusive behavior lies solely with the abuser, and it is up to them to choose to change. You are not obligated to "rescue" someone, as they have a deeper understanding of their situation than you do. It's common to invest significant time and energy in attempting to solve issues that cause pain to loved ones. However, remember you can only control your own actions, not those of an abusive partner. Instead, focus on empowering yourself through training and education.